How to Make Sex Better

SAME SEX ON THE MOVES!

Are you finding that sex is either not pleasurable or simply painful? Maybe you're more worried about how much your partner is enjoying it. No matter the case, it's not as hard as it seems to improve your in-bed techniques. Try these steps for improving your sex life.

1. Setting Up for Success


Love the body you're in. Yes, your partner's too but mostly....you! Feeling self-conscious or embarrassed of your body can make sex humiliating, and takes all the fun out of it. If you struggle with body image issues that are negatively affecting your sex life, then make it a priority to rectify what you can and accept what you cannot. Don't try to change your body in order to please other people. Only make changes that you feel comfortable with, and that you know will improve your overall life and health. Acknowledge that some things can't be changed, and that you deserve to be with somebody who accepts you for who you are.


Be happy and let them see it. Your partner needs to see that you're enthusiastic and that you want to be there. Being shy or coy will only make them self conscious, which will make the experience worse for both of you. Let yourself enjoy the experience and don't be afraid to let them see that you're enjoying it too.


Focus on their enjoyment. See their orgasm as your goal line, not your own. Of course, it's important for you to get what you're looking for from a sexual relationship too, but you should start by setting a good example. The better you make them feel, the more they're going to want to rise to the challenge.


Communicate with your partner. No matter how well you think you may know each other, your partner isn't a mind reader. If something specific is lacking in your sex life, then it's important to talk about it so that you can make the necessary changes. If your partner is really committed to you, then he or she will be willing to listen and respect your needs. You should also make a point of asking your partner what they want and what they like. Let them know that you want to hear it when you do something that feels good.


Pay attention to your partner. The key to good sex is to make sure that you're processing and acknowledging your partner's reactions to the experience. When you see them wince, stop, because you might be hurting them. When you hear them moan, repeat the motion you just did because it probably feels really good. Most importantly, pay attention to if they seem nervous or uncomfortable. Just because someone doesn't say "no" doesn't mean that they won't feel taken advantage of later.


2. Mastering the Act



Ditch the porn stereotypes. Stop thinking of sex in terms of what you see in porn. Porn is shot and set up to look good on camera, but it usually doesn't reflect what actually feels good or what a real sexual encounter looks like. Try to go in with no expectations. Just let things go naturally.


Treat sex like a vacation. You want to enjoy every minute of the entire experience. It shouldn't be a get-in-get-out operation (this is another reason why it's important to have good chemistry). So, enjoy the whole sexual experience. Slow down. Explore your partner's whole body. Don't just go for the cliche parts. You should even make a point to keep kissing. Returning for a sexy make out every now and again can be a great way to draw out the experience.
Don't skip foreplay. Before jumping right to the main event, spend some time kissing, caressing, and pleasing one another. Foreplay can make sex last longer and feel more sensual and romantic. Women especially find that foreplay is helpful in getting them in the right mood, whereas men are usually "ready to go" at any moment. Men, it's in your best interest to have your lady in the mood: it will increase her natural lubrication!


Keep the compliments flowing. You should make sure that your partner never doubts for a moment that you think they are pretty much the hottest thing on the planet (maybe even the hottest thing for the next couple planets). When you see something you like, let them know. You don't always have to say it, but take time to enjoy it. Let them see you enjoying it too. Don't be afraid to let them see that hungry-tiger look in your eyes.


Lube up. This is SO IMPORTANT to good sex, we cannot emphasize it enough (especially if your partner is a lady-type person!). Sexual interactions involve a lot of friction, right? Friction is good. But it also has its downsides. Have you ever gotten rope or carpet burn? Yeah. Pour on the lube. Avoid the evils of genital friction burns.


Vary the pressure and movements that you use. This is pretty much the entire key to "using it right" as they say. It really, in the end, doesn't matter how you're...shaped or endowed. It really is all in how you use it. For example, women have almost no nerve endings inside their vaginas. All of the sensitivity is around the outside and first 3". Pelvic movements should then be in a figure 8 shape to feel good to her, instead of just a basic in-and-out thrust.



Maintain a good rhythm. Good, steady rhythm that slowly builds is a great way to turn basic sex moves into amazing ones. Have you ever had something feel really incredible and then you get interrupted? It's hard to get that perfect feeling again. That's why good rhythm is key.


Make some noise. Of course, you don't want to go over the top, but making some basic moans and gasps lets your partner know not only when something feels good and they should do more of it, it also tells that that you're enjoying the experience. This will heighten their enjoyment and also encourage them to put in more effort. Just do what feels natural and try not to hold back as much.


Don't be afraid to add some kink. You don't need to go full blown Fifty Shades, but some basic kink can really add variety and interest to your sex life. The problem is that sex can easily become routine, especially when you've been with someone for awhile. To keep it great or make it better, you want to break up the monotony. Nothing says "goodbye monotony" like silk blindfolds, fuzzy handcuffs, and a fun game of Bad Cop.

You should also experiment with sex toys! They are not just the realm of lonely women and lesbians. Men are very sensitive to a vibrator around their testicles. Vibrators aren't even the only toys. Do some research and see what you might be missing out on.
Indulge in fantasies. Lots of people have very specific sexual fantasies that they are too embarrassed to share with their partners. If you feel comfortable enough with your partner, then share your fantasies with one another and then take turns trying each one out.


Have more oral sex. Usually this particular piece of advice is aimed at men, who tend to be better about receiving than giving, but really this applies to both genders. Oral sex is pleasurable (often more so than "traditional" sex) and it's a good way to keep things from becoming too routine.


Take some initiative. If you're usually the submissive partner, try taking charge every now and again. Give some orders. Say what you want. Get on top. They'll love the break from the norm and you'll get a chance to put your pleasure first.


Learn to finish together. Sex is best when everyone leaves satisfied. Of course, one of the best ways to do this is to learn to finish together. It can take some practice and you might need to work on your stamina, but it is incredibly rewarding in the end.


Men, pay attention to woman's breasts. Stop once in a while to admire them and suck on them. This may sound weird but it works. When you suck on them do it really fast if you are having rough sex but really slow if you're not.



Women, to improve the experience stop at least twice to suck on your partners penis. This also might sound weird but enhances the experience. The same speed applies with breast sucking. Make sure to suck on his whole penis and lick it. Men should also lick the women's vagina really slow or fast in both rough and normal sex. For both genders do all of this for a couple of minutes.


Never let anything become routine. Never, never, never let sex become routine. Yeah, you know just what to do to make him orgasm instantly, but that doesn't mean you should! Sex shouldn't be something that feels routine and planned, like brushing your teeth. If you and your partner have sex at the same time every day (or night) then it's time to mix things up. Keep variation in the positions you use, where you have sex, who's in control, what extras you use, etc.
Have more spontaneous sex. Having sex at an unexpected time or an unexpected place can add an element of spontaneity to your sex life, making it feel exciting and new again.


Always end with a good cuddle! Emotional bonds do, for most people, make sex more enjoyable. Sex is just more fun with someone that you care about. The best sex you'll have will be with somebody who you are attracted to, who you trust, and who you feel comfortable enough to let loose with. Nothing drives home the feeling of having sex with someone you love deeply like a good post-coital cuddle!



3. Trying New Positions


Try the cowgirl family of positions. These are positions where the woman is on top. This gives a woman more control and can be a great way to reduce pain and ensure that you orgasm together. It's also a good position if the male member is...less than large.


Try doggy style. Ignore the name: this position is great for pregnant women and certain types of female stimulation. It is also good for those who gain more pleasure from the intense sensations associated with rougher sex.


Try the Coital-Alignment Technique. This is a sexual position which has been studied and proven to provide the most stimulation for women, allowing you to both get the most from the experience. It is similar to the traditional missionary, but the man aligns his hip bones so that the pelvic area provides more stimulus for the woman's clitoris. This creates more of a grinding motion than a thrusting one, but it makes everyone happier in the end.


Try side by side positions. If one or both of you has back or joint pain, or if the man is just too big for the woman to take comfortably, side by side positions can offer more control and comfort. Both partners will be laying on their side for these positions. There are many variations so find what works best for you.


TIPS:

As with anything else, sex takes practice in order to perfect. If you are new to sex, then don't panic if it isn't amazing from the get-go. You're still learning about your own body and about what techniques and maneuvers work (and which ones don't) in bed.

Lots of people find that sex without a condom is more pleasurable for both parties. If you are on birth control and both you and your partner have recently been tested for sexually transmitted diseases, then try having sex the au natural way.

WARNING!!!

Always, always, ALWAYS practice safe sex.

Remember that birth control does not protect against sexually transmitted diseases, and is not 100% effective in preventing unplanned pregnancies.

If you are in the United States, local and state laws dictate the legality of sexual relations between individuals and are often contingent on the ages and familial relationship of the involved persons.

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How to Have a Good Family Life?

Despite the perfect picture families that always seem to loom over us on television, posters and bill boards, there are many more complexities and dynamics to families than all smiles and laughter. All families are different, and all families have their own issues, but with the right amount of work and determination, you can make your family life the very best it can be, by developing your relationships and learning more about yourself and your relatives. No one's family life is perfect; but you can make yours good, so why not?

1.  Understand your family well. If you don't then there can be many misunderstandings and fights. Be with them whenever you can and get to know them better. A lot of families now don't get to know each other too well because they're too busy. Plan some family time, like, a movie, or a family game, or even as little as eating dinner together.

2.  Respect your family. Your children, your wife/husband are now yours but remember at the end of the day they are also humans. They also have an opinion or suggestion. Sometimes it can be bad or good. Never be angry with someone's opinion, they have their opinions, and no one's perfect.

3. Give time. No one wants to be ignored just for some meeting or work. Give time to each and every one of them so you can understand every individual properly and this can prevent any misunderstandings in the future.

4. Treat everyone as equal. Whether its your maid or stepchild, they also deserve love and affection from you as you deserve from your wife/husband or from your own child. Treat everyone like you would want to be treated, and getting along with your family should be easy

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Never scream or shout at anyone. This can create hatred for you in their hearts. By simply making them understand can do a lot. Why waste energy when you can do it calmly?

Try not to fight with your siblings. Fighting can tear your relationship apart and you'll regret it when you get older. Treasure the time you have with your siblings, you can't get it back.

6. Never discriminate.

7. Learn to compromise. When you or someone else in your family wants the total opposite of each other, find a way to work it out to give you all what you want.

8. Help each other. When you see your sibling or parent needs help, help them. Doing little things such as holding the door for them, or helping someone with homework.

9. Organizing surprise birthday parties and celebrating any individual's achievements can really help.

10. Avoid using offensive and abusive words against each other.

11. Sometimes teenagers can feel sad or lonely. First ask them about it and if they don't want to share then its OK. It's just hormones. If you think that something is really bad, ask their close friends and help him/her.

12. Never ever break any promise. This can hurt them or make them feel that you are a liar and every time will break promises.

13. Learn to forgive.

14. Don't scold too much. Scolding can be good for them but never overdo it.

15. Make them realize in an easy way. If someone in your family has done something wrong or have betrayed your trust, make them realize their mistake in an easy way.

WARNING!

Compromise is the most valuable tool you have.

Don't put everything down to hormones. If your teenager feels reluctant to talk to you, he or she may be upset about something or being bullied. Ask if everything is okay and win over their trust.

When someone ask you to do his/her work try to do it at that time. Don't postpone it.

If the work is really important then try to make them understand and promise about next time.

Always learn to forgive when you get into a fight with your parents. Just tell them sorry, kiss them, hug them, and make the know how much you love them.

Don't upset them by telling them you don't belong in the family or no one loves you. Apologize to them no matter how bad the scolding gets and hug or kiss them. They will calm down.

Do not get upset when your mum/dad is telling you something and you think they are shouting at you because they are trying to teach you something important.

Never beat or raise your hand to anyone.

Family members are never entitled to be abusive. If they are, don't waste your time. They can't always be won over with patience and kindness. Stay out of toxic situations when you can.

If your family hates each other, try to put them in an situation where giving and receiving help is important.

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FOUR WAYS HOW TO FIND THE MAN OF YOUR DREAMS

HOW TO FIND YOUR MAN OF YOUR DREAMS?

Every woman or a gay dreams of finding that perfect man — the hard part is turning those dreams into reality. There is no way to guarantee that you will find him, but there are steps that you can take to greatly improve your chances. Keep reading to find out what you can do to find the man of your dreams.

FOUR METHODS TO FIND YOUR DREAM MAN

1. Adjusting Your Mindset
1. Understand yourself. Know your own real needs and distinguish them from other people's expectations. Be honest with yourself about your faults, you need to meet someone who will find your faults minor and forgivable but prize your strengths. Sometimes they are the same thing - a determined go-getter can be described as stubborn by someone who doesn't like her. Try turning every criticism anyone ever gave you inside out, find the compliment version and ask if it's true.

2. Don't expect perfection. If you find it, all the better. But, admit it; you're not perfect. No one is. If you're looking for a 100% perfect man, you will never find him. So be quick to forgive those little mistakes or annoying habits that don't matter, and hopefully he will overlook your imperfections too. Understand what types of annoying habits rile you so much they're a deal-breaker and be up front about those, as well as those you don't think of as a big deal. If you can't stand a forgetful man, you may have to bend on something else to find one who never forgets an anniversary or errand.

3. Be happy being alone. If you want to be ready to find the man of your dreams, then you have to be content with your own company before you begin your search. Forget the myth of finding the man who completes you or makes you whole; you should already feel like a fulfilled, well-rounded being, whose life will be improved by the presence of the right man, but not completed.

4. Love yourself. This is another important point. If you want to be able to find the man of your dreams, you have to love who you are. This doesn't mean that you have to completely love every part of yourself, but that you are confident in who you are and happy with what you have to offer. Being aware of your flaws is part of loving yourself, and it will make you a much more grounded person in a relationship.

2. Knowing What You Want

1. Define the qualities of your dream man. Though you may never know exactly who the man of your dreams may be until you see him from across the room and feel like you've had the wind knocked out of you, you should definitely have a strong sense of the kind of man you're looking for as you go about your search. The qualities you want shouldn't read like a check-list that has to be completed for you to find the right guy, but you should strongly consider which qualities are a must-have for you to pursue the "perfect" relationship. Here are some things to consider:

2. Define your deal breakers. The qualities you don't want can be just as important as the ones you need. If there are a few deal breakers that will mean you can't make a relationship work, no matter how hard you try, then it's better to know what they are up front than to try to stick it out before failing. These qualities have to do with your priorities and what you are not willing to put up with no matter what -- there's no shame in admitting what they are. Here are some qualities that may be your deal breakers no matter what:

3. Get ready to compromise -- about some things. Though you should stand your ground on the things that really matter to you, and be on the alert for any red flags that tell you that the relationship won't work, you should have an open mind when you start a new relationship, even if your "have" and "have not" list is firmly ingrained in your mind. When you meet the right man, you may find that you didn't even know exactly what you were looking for, so get ready for the ride.

4. Know where to look. Knowing what you're looking for is half the battle; the other half is knowing where to look. If you know what your dream man should be like but spend all of your time at home or in the wrong bars, then you'll never get to meet him. The most important thing is to be open to love no matter where you go, because ultimately, no one can predict where you'll find the man of your dreams. However, knowing where to look can greatly improve your chances of meeting him. Here are some great places to look:

3. Hooking the Man of Your Dreams

1. Be the person you want to marry. What kind of person are you attracted to? What kinds of traits does he have to have? To attract the kind of person you like, you have to have those traits too. Also look at traits that are complementary - if you're very domestic, you may be happier with a man who doesn't putter in your kitchen but never gripes about mowing the lawn or cleaning the gutters.

2. Be an interesting person. Find a hobby or two that makes you stand out. Whether you like to play sports, paint, play a musical instrument, or go clubbing at night, surrounding yourself with people of your same interests will increase your chances of meeting the man of your dreams while having fun at the same time. Don't think you have any hobbies? Try something creative, you may have unexpected talents and discover it's fun. Go out and volunteer in your community.

3. Make a good first impression. Though the guy will get to know you as time goes on, you should start off on the right foot. Make an effort to look nice while staying in your comfort zone when you know you'll have a chance to meet men. Even if you're having a bad day or didn't really feel like going out, you should always be ready with a smile and a joke, because you never know when you'll find the man of your dreams.

4. Avoid being codependent. A codependent relationship brings out the worst in both partners and shatters lives. If you grew up in a codependent environment, seek counseling and learn to overcome codependent habits before getting serious about any romantic relationship. You're better off taking your time than enduring the emotional and possibly physical abuse of codependence. That's what it leads to - abuse.

5. Be real. Don't try to be someone you're not, or you may get typecast in a narrow role that doesn't include all that you are. If you're normally casual and dress to the nines whenever you meet him, he may reasonably expect you to dress like that all the time and be disappointed once you're together. If you pretend you don't like books and hook up with him, you may wind up spending the rest of your life having an argument every time you want to order from Amazon.

6. Don't come on too strong. This is a key point to staying with the man of your dreams. If you love him instantly, great, but don't blurt it out unless you're sure you've had the most magical chemistry from the start. If you can see him as your husband, the father of your kids, perfect, but don't mention it on your third -- or your tenth -- date. Let things run their course before you both feel serious enough about each other to talk about the future.


4. Making it Last

1. Don't lose him for lack of affection. Though coming on too strong can be a problem, so can the opposite problem -- not letting the man know how much he means to you. If you've been together for a while and you haven't told him how much he means to you or gone out of your way to complement him, then you may be closer to losing him than you think. Though men don't generally like to be smothered with love and affection, they do like to be told that they're doing something right.

2. Make sure you're compatible. This is crucial for the survival of any serious relationship. Your man may look great on paper, but you should also be compatible when you're together. This means laughing easily, having great conversations without hardly ever running out of things to talk about, seeing eye-to-eye on the small things, and being able to get through a day -- or a week, or a month! -- together without fighting every two seconds.

3. Be patient. Give it time, woman. Don't rush to the altar after six months of bliss. If you really want to make it last, then you have to have the patience to go through months, or years, of a good relationship, before trying to force marriage, children, or any serious choices onto your man. For the first year, at least, just enjoy your time together and work on developing a strong bond before trying to leap to the next step.

4. Share the same long-term goals. If both of you want to focus on your careers for the foreseeable future, then great. If you're both ready for the marriage and kids thing, awesome. And if you're okay with living right where you are for the rest of your lives, even better. Unfortunately, it's not often that you can be so in sync with your partner. If you are, then great. But if not, you should make sure that you share as many long-term goals as possible, so you can move forward together.

Of course, you should both be willing to compromise, but this will be much easier if your visions of the future aren't wildly different.

Obviously, the most important shared long-term goal should be developing your relationship. You should both be invested in the relationship 100% to be able to move forward.

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